Friday, January 11, 2013


Loss.  It comes into all our lives on little feet, sometimes sneaking up on us and other times charging in like a tornado.  Either way, the result is the same.  Our lives are changed, torn up, upset and rearranged, never to be quite the same again. 

I lost my favorite uncle on Saturday.  We knew the end was coming soon, and were amazed that he held on as long as he did.  He was married to my mother's youngest sister and had been in my life all my life.  Never was there a time when he was not part of me.  Now, I'll miss his laughter and his hi-jinks.  One more pillar of stability and security that has gone, leaving the family with the necessity of standing on our own just a bit more, without the reassuring knowledge that there was someone to help us when needed.  I miss you, Uncle Earl. 

Blogland lost one of its stars yesterday.  Leontien Van de Laar lost here courageous battle with melanoma and is now in a better place, healed of that scourge.  I never met her in person, but her spirit and determination were inspirations to me.  They still are.  A member of my cyber family is missing and it is as real as though she lived next door. 
There may be folks who cannot understand the connections we form here in blogland.   That's their loss, I believe.  My day would not be complete without checking in with my friends here and letting them be part of my life. 

I wish you all peace and happiness in this new year. 

Y'all take care. 


  1. So sorry for the loss of your Uncle. Sometimes Aunts & Uncles have as great an impact on our growing up as our parents do.

    I had just started reading about Leontien at the end of last year & saw the notification yesterday. What a courageous battle she fought! She's in a better place now.

  2. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.

  3. I came here for a hug-

    hugs to (((floridafarmgirl!)))

    I hate endings - in order to maintain sanity, I can only think of them as beginnings, and that we have to catch up with them one day for our new beginning... but the loss is still felt while we live and wait for our turn...and Wishing you back all the peace and happiness you can stand :)

  4. Sending hugs to you. Your memories of your uncle's hi-jinks and his laughter will bring you comfort after a time. And I'm one who understands the connections formed by blogging.... more hugs for you in your loss of a blogger friend.

  5. I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, but glad for you that you had this wonderful man as part of your life/family for so long - that's something to be very grateful for.

  6. (((((((hugs)))))))) I'm sorry for your losses, my friend.

  7. Sorry for both of your losses. Yes, a family loss is so easy to relate to. But the loss of a cyber-friend is real as well. We do come to know these people as they allow glimpses into their lives.

    Hope your days are a bit better with a little passage of time. Peace be with you.

  8. Oh I am sad to read about your Uncle Earl I am truly sorry. I miss Leontien and her humour. You are right about people who are missing so much if they have not lived and loved in blogger land. Hugs Buttons

  9. I missed this post last week. Sorry to hear about your Uncle. And Leontien ... such a courage woman who battled hard.